Quick Query # 7 is a re-do of Q.Q.C. #6.

THE QUERY LETTER

Dear Ms. Miller,
Love-Laws of the Jungle is a compilation of authentic letters I spontaneously wrote to my clients in the middle of the night from our session that day, synthesizing my afterthoughts and insights. One of my clients was so inspired by my letter; she carried it in her purse for a year. The letters target a variety of relationship challenges prescribing revolutionary tactics and innovative tools, resulting in a collection of Love-Laws that I later created. The letters were edited for clarity and confidentiality.

Desperate times require desperate measures. Despite bestselling relationship books, the divorce rate is holding at 50%. Women still nag men and men go into their cave. Having been in private practice for over twenty years, I’ve detected the missing piece of the puzzle. The root of relationship problems today is the severance from our animal nature. In our earnest efforts to become gentile, we’ve over trained ourselves. In the name of love or peace, reason or restraint, we’re stuck second-guessing ourselves. So we pretend. We lie to ourselves and we lie to our mate. Instead of dynamic, a relationship turns static. The result? I see “dead spouses walking.”

Human nature is not our enemy. At the base of our design is the animal instinct to band together to survive. How? Both males and females bring their skills to the relationship table, balancing compassion and cooperation with assertiveness and sensibility. Cutting to the chase, I teach women and men how to get out of their heads and back into the genius of their natural instincts. Defying politically correct conventionality, in Love-Laws of the Jungle, I utilize human nature without apology, tackling an array of male-female issues via provocative proclamations and clever teasers. And it won’t always be pretty. And it will cause a fuss. And it does work⎯quite easily and quite readily.

Love-Law of the Jungle #23: If your man’s penis is in charge of him, sit down eye to eye with his penis and state your terms for a mutually rewarding deal.

“Tara, undress Rick. Sit down in front of him. Look his penis straight in the eye and bow in honor of King Kock. If you start laughing, compose yourself. A vital marriage requires pleasurable sex for two. Remember, the penis is its own entity. State your claim. Keep your eyes on his penis and start talking.” ~Letter 7~

Love-Law of the Jungle #27: When women curtail shopping the way men have had to curtail sex, we’ll be free of a double standard.

Love-Law of the Jungle #9: Love is like a meal. Feed a man too often, he’ll sit back, put up his feet, then burp. Too much coddling will turn any man into a lethargic crabby fat cat.

Love-Law of the Jungle #1: Grace is being disappointed without punishing or resenting one another.

I have a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology and I’m a Certified Relationship Coach. I was the Associate Clinical Director for Dr. David Viscott for five years. My work has been covered by ABC, CBS, BBC, E! News, Chicago Tribune, London Daily Mail, Der Speigal, Vogue, and more.

Given the self-help books you represent, I’d appreciate if I could send my proposal or manuscript for your perusal. Thank you for your time.

(Signature & contact info)

ONE more thing!

The phrase ‘dead spouses walking’  should be used in the marketing campaign/book proposal as well as here. It’s imagery so fits the content. I’d suggest she consider it as a title but Love-Law of the Jungle suits this self- help book.

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This letter needs work but has potential. If you’d like to view it, please sign up for my Museletter by registering here.  If not, listen to my reading and please add your comments if so inspired. In my humble, it’s biggest speed bump is disorganization followed by confusion re: author’s intention. Not sure if this is ‘tongue in cheek’ or actually a book about achieving sexual harmony by pleasing your man. Would love reader comments on this one!

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My video critique of the following query letter:

The Letter:

Dear Sir or Madam,
The Rubin girls, a mother and her two daughters, each suffer the loss of a son. Each male child dies within a two-year period from different causes. This is their story of survival, healing and hope after such trauma, tragedy and loss.
One daughter tells the story of how a family turns victimization into victory of the spirit, each one in their own unique way. The mother dances her way to forgetting and slowly loses her memory, living to age 94. The eldest sister, an artist, has a mental breakdown, eliciting 14 electroconvulsive treatments (ECT) to change the chemistry of her brain and ward off suicide. She is finally prescribed with the proper medication to be able to live a full and adventurous artistic life. The younger sister, the author and a practicing psychotherapist, survives 15 years tending to her mother and then is diagnosed with cancer. She emerges with a new awareness of love and the heart’s desire to share her awareness, strength and hope with others.
The story depicts the relationships between the three women, their family’s dynamic and the interconnection between the mothers and their sons. It is a story of physical, emotional and spiritual breakdown, which is transformed through the process of insight, mindfulness and recovery. It’s a story of going to the depths of depression and illness then rising above it to the healing heights of acceptance by allowing “life on life’s terms” with grace.
I propose a book length true life story titled, “Swallowing Life’s Lessons: How to Digest the Indigestible.” I am available for travel and interviews.
I am submitting this manuscript for your consideration because of the many women writers you have represented and the nature of your interest and expertise in books on turning victimhood into triumph.
I am a holistic health practitioner working in (city) as a licensed Marriage Family Therapist/Nutritionist. I have advance training in grief and loss through the “Grief Recovery Institute” and Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’s “Externalization” process. I have studied trauma work with Peter Levine’s, “Somatic Experiencing,” a three year course in trauma resolution, methods and theory. I am a supervisor and trainer of pre-licensed interns on their  road to licensure. I have been licensed in (state)since 1989 and active in the recovery field since 1986. I have practiced mindfulness (Insight) meditation since 1975.
Sincerely,

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